Property and the dance

Every year in the little Oklahoma town where my grandmother was born they hold a dance in the park for the 4th of July. About 15 years ago, the last time I went for a family reunion, I went to the dance. There was a couple at the dance who I could not keep  my … Continue reading Property and the dance


Miscellaneous, boring life stuff that makes me happy.

It's 90 and sunny outside today which means I'm having a hell of a time staying inside to do stuff like laundry, ironing and blog writing.  I thought I would take the time to really burst the bubble of those who might still be under the horribly false misconception that because we're poly and kinky … Continue reading Miscellaneous, boring life stuff that makes me happy.

Not Everything Is About Being Poly

I hear a lot how something happens because "We're poly." Whether it's communication, transparency, STI awareness etc. The fact that many people believe relationships are so vastly different because they are poly or kinky just stumps me. Being transparent, having good communication skills, being self aware, loving, honest, with integrity etc are not poly or … Continue reading Not Everything Is About Being Poly


One of the many things the four of us have in common is our feelings about family and the importance of those relationships. Sometimes family is blood related, but sometimes it is those we choose. A few weeks ago I had a visit from my friend, Laurie, from California and we got to go hiking … Continue reading Family